When we take on a new challenge, especially something big and meaningful, we know that it won’t be easy, but we set out, nonetheless excited and motivated by the challenge ahead.

After the initial optimism wears off, the magnitude of the task becomes apparent, quickly followed by feelings of doubt and fear, changing our whole thought process about journey.

No one said it would be easy, but no one said it would be this hard.

When we set out, we might think about the feeling of accomplishing (or not) the challenge.

What most us fail to do is anticipate the feelings associated with the twists and turns of the journey along the way. How often have we said in a difficult moment, “I didn’t sign up for this (insert expletive)?”.

Focus, discipline, willpower and the conviction to overcome them is important – but they are not enough.

Anticipating and monitoring our difficult emotions along the way, is what’s really needed. The skill of being excellent at being open to vulnerability is a key trait of the high performer.

“Your outer journey may contain a million steps; your inner journey only has one: the step you are taking right now.” – Eckhart Tolle

Being present to our feelings and navigating them in a way that supports and helps our journey (as opposed to having them derail it) makes us more resilient journey-persons.

It is also something that doesn’t need to be left up to chance. We can train for it and prepare ourselves for these inevitable experiences by building our personal agency and accountability with skills that allow us to have power over these emotions, rather than them having power over us and taking us, unaware, off the course that we originally set.